Best Books on Healing Pain

Self Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself – Kristen Neff, PhD It’s hard to move forward when you tear yourself down constantly on the inside. This book helped me realize that I was the main person holding myself back because I was so hard on myself all the time. When my internal […]

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Best Quotes on Relationships

What if this was the last time you ever spoke with them? – Unknown Relationships are hard. Sometimes it gets tense. Sometimes you just want space and everything they say grates your nerves. But we don’t know how much time we have on this Earth. What if they stormed out after an argument and got […]

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Best Quotes on Motivation

Embrace this moment, remember. We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion. – Parabola (song) by Tool It’s easy to get demotivated when you feel like lots of stuff is going poorly. When everything hurts and you can’t see past the pain, but most of the painful thoughts we have are not ‘real,’ per-se. […]

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Best Quotes on Overcoming Fear

Do it scared – Rory Valden Some things will always be scary. Some of the most important conversations you’ll ever have will be uncomfortable. There’s no way around that. But this can be empowering too. If you know talking to your boss about a raise will always be scary…why wait? You’ll be scared if you […]

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You can’t find love by running from pain

I know you’re lonely. I get it. You wish there was someone there. You wish someone could hold you. Maybe you just wish they could get you out of your head for 5 minutes. Your feelings are legitimate, and there’s so many people in the same boat. It hurts to be alone. It hurts to […]


Best Quotes on Healing Pain

Until you make the unconscious conscious it will direct your life and you will call it fate – Carl Jung Old pain doesn’t heal itself. It actually spreads when you don’t heal it. Unresolved childhood trauma can gravitate you towards unhealthy relationships. Unprocessed fears of rejection can strain and break apart friendships. So we need […]

How to be kind to yourself (your favorite author can help)

The hardest part about dark moments is not just the pain, it’s feeling alone. Because going through something hard when you have a friend still has camaraderie. It brings you closer together and you have someone that’s going through it with you. When you’re alone it reinforces all the things that you hate about yourself. […]


A mistake repeated more than once is a decision

Letter to the 2016 version of me: How many days were just stepping stones to you? You traded hours like tokens at the arcade, thinking this accomplishing this goal or checking this box would make you happy. Did you think you’d feel fulfilled after you had this title or that money? This is Matthew from […]


Stop telling yourself you don’t need therapy

Stop lying to me and saying you’re okay. Stop pretending it’s normal to have topics you can never discuss with anyone. Stop refusing to feel things because the pain is too much. I’ve seen this movie before, I was in it. For decades I stoically told people my dad died when I was 7 as […]

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Best Quotes on Self Care

“My life has been full of terrible misfortunes, most of which never happened.” – Michel de Montaigne Everyone spends a lot of time thinking about worst-case scenarios or perceived sleights in their head. And it adds a lot of negativity. A big focus of my personal self-care is choosing not to add that negativity to […]

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How to stop quitting – take more breaks

There’s been a lot of times that I couldn’t keep pushing on a goal. When life wasn’t necessarily bad, but it wasn’t good either. I felt like I should be doing something productive or fun – but I didn’t have the energy or motivation. And that idleness drove me nuts. Almost without fail I would […]


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